In real life, Pre-wedding nerves might mean that the forthcoming relationship is not for you or that you are simply not quite ready yet. But, it is probably just pre-wedding nerves that can be something a little more serious, an impending sense of doom, dread, feelings of a big mistake, or bowing to the wishes of others against your common sense and inner feelings. If your potential spouse has ever gotten violent, has an ongoing drug or alcohol problem, dislikes your friends and family, recently unfaithful, or doesn't want children (or he/she differs considerably on how to raise them), then you should probably seriously consider a postponement of the wedding. The temporary embarrassment is a trifle compared with years of wishing you weren't in a fixed, legal relationship.
A good way of banishing wedding day nerves is to be prepared by making lists of tasks beforehand. While making your lists, you can even include the names of people who will most likely handle particular tasks. There are a lot of family, relatives and close friends around you who will only be too happy to help you out. Assigning them simple tasks like double-checking on suppliers or bringing the gifts back home will take the pressure off of you and make them feel even more special for being assigned roles in the event. Having less to worry about will certainly help in fighting nerves on your wedding day.
Think about emergencies it's always a good idea to have spares of some of the essential supplies, like make-up, stockings, pins and hair fasteners and a handy sewing kit for emergency quick fixes. Last minute problems will always cause you stress unless you are prepared.
Keep your sense of humor intact - even with all that preparation, some things will still go wrong. The weather may be uncooperative or the delivery of the flowers could be delayed. It's okay. It's not the end of the world. Just go with the flow and simply enjoy the moment. Worrying about things that you can't control will not help you in fighting nerves on your wedding day. This is the part where you take a deep breath, relax and ask one of your friends to see to the situation.
Take a break - there's no harm in taking a break from all these preparations and details. Take the time to bond with your family and with your groom. Go for a relaxing trip to the spa with your family and friends. Go on a pre-wedding date with your fiancé. You can even agree to a "break from wedding discussions" at a certain time at night so you can talk about everything else that's happening aside from wedding activities.
It's important to realize that most all couples, even the best ones that have been enthusiastic and happy for long years, went through the pre-wedding nerves. When you get advice from someone, try to seek out happily married couples or even couples that have been together for a long time, marriage or not. Often, their secrets can be the sought-after element that encourages an unbreakable bond and subdues pre-wedding nerves' impact. If you've had negative feelings for a considerable time then it's an idea to stop the wedding all together. Marriage is a journey, and no one can expect it to be smooth all the time.
